Chivalry vs. Feminism

Snow White makes me angry. You know, I thought I didn't mind the traditional fairtytales where the prince comes and rescues the princess and takes her away, but Snow White is just plain dumb. I like to consider myself a smart person while I'm not the most gorgeous girl on the block; I don't want to feel like guys are going to be less interested in people like me and more interested in ditsy flighty beauties who care more about how they look than how they behave. This tale makes me feel like women are just objects to men and can just sit there and look beautiful and allow the men to do whatever they want with them.

Don't get me wrong. Like many women, I love to feel the protection of another man; I love to be rescued. I am a little old-fashioned, and I think that chivalry is a dying art. But I am not going to put myself in a dangerous situation just to be rescued. Women are meant to be mothers; they too are meant to protect, to heal, to take care of themselves and their children. They are not just pretty things you sit on your shelf. The problem with society is that it seems to operate in the two extremes. Either people (some men especially) think that women are objects meant to be quiet and do as the man asks, letting him be in control of everything; or they (the feminists) think that women are supposed to be like men, and push their career over their children while claiming that they don't need or want the help of men. Neither of these is okay. Women are beautiful, able creatures, created by God for a purpose, and that purpose is not merely an object for pleasure. But it also does not mean women should try to turn themselves into something they are not: men.

We are the bride. We are loved and cared for because of who we are, the things we believe in, the things we accomplish, and how we love and care for other people. We are able; we are smart; we can get ourselves out of danger, but we also trust the help of men who, though equal, carry much different qualities than we. Let the man be the prince, but be the intelligent princess.

Thank God my fiance loves me for more than my looks.